Brandi Willis Schreiber

Sensual, Southern Romance

Writing from the Hero’s Perspective: An Interview with Jezz de Silva

Jezz de Silva is on a mission. First, as personal protection instructor, he’s not a big fan of bullies. Since statistics show women are victimized the most in society, he aims to empower women to lead stronger, happier, and more confident lives through his instruction. “This is not about learning to fight,” he wrote me. “It’s about learning to live.” And “learning to live” encompasses everything from focusing “on identifying and appreciating what makes you special” to ensuring your voice is heard to asking for that raise, concepts that might not normally crop up up in a conversation about personal protection, especially with women.

“Women are conditioned to be nice and put others’ needs ahead of their own. Predators capitalize on this,” he wrote.

His advice to women who may have trouble acclimating to this idea as they learn to defend themselves? “Learn to accept who you are and be comfortable in your own skin. This is never ending journey but gets easier with practice. Trust me, I’ve gone from pretend tough guy to a guy who cries during Pixar movies and writes romance novels.”

About that last part.

As a former automotive engineer and now test driver, Jezz has ventured into new territory that’s a little different than the miles and miles of untamed Australian Outback he’s used to seeing on his long drives.

He’s writing romance with tough heroes and even tougher heroines, the kind of enviably well-written romances that make you laugh and cry in the same five pages and leave you loving the characters as much as you love your own family, your best friend, and ice cream, all in the same moment.

I hope my background gives readers a different perspective into how decent, caring, and supportive heroes behave and feel about their heroines.
— Jezz de Silva

I hope my background gives readers a different perspective into how decent, caring, and supportive heroes behave and feel about their heroines.”

That’s pretty darn heroic.

I contacted Jezz after reading AGAINST ALL ODDS, a book that was one of Smart Bitches Trashy Books’ favorite books of 2017. He was kind enough to visit with me about his new career, what it’s like being a male romance writer in this industry, and his advice to all writers.

Romance author, Jezz de Silva, with his First Reader and his "zoo of geriatric rescue animals who eat him out of house and home."

Romance author, Jezz de Silva, with his First Reader and his "zoo of geriatric rescue animals who eat him out of house and home."

Jezz, I am so excited to share a little bit about you and your writing on my website! For folks who may be unfamiliar with your work, tell us a little bit about yourself and what you write.

My long suffering First Reader and I live in a tiny one wombat town in the hills outside Melbourne, Australia. And when I say one wombat town I really mean it. I see the little girl when walking Bear, Max, and Zara, my plot, character, and marketing consultants.

Our little patch of heaven is overrun by a zoo of geriatric rescued animals who eat us out of house and home when not sleeping or guilting us into walks. And we wouldn’t have it any other way.

When not tapping my fingers or banging my head on a keyboard creating happily ever afters, I love spending time with family and friends, cooking, EATING, gardening, renovating our castle, and teaching personal protection.

I love helping tough heroes and tougher heroines find their happily ever afters.

 

Many readers assume that romance is a genre that is only for women, written only by women, but romance authors are as diversified as the books themselves! What's it been like being a male author in this industry? And how do you feel that it's influenced your writing, your stories, or your approach to your characters and work?

I can't believe how welcoming Romancelandia has been, and I'm so grateful for all the support. I can't even imagine how difficult it is for female writers to be accepted into other genres. This is one of the many reasons I love romance and the romance community.

I write purely for my heroine to give her the happiest happily ever after possible. I also love reading, listening to, and writing stories from both the heroine and hero's points of view. I hope my background gives readers a different perspective into how decent, caring, and supportive heroes behave and feel about their heroines.

 

You've written for Samhain and most recently Entangled Publishing. Tell us about your writing path to these opportunities! How long did it take you to finish your first book and get a contract? What has your writing journey been like? 

My First Reader and I still look at each and shake our heads because we'd never dreamed I'd become a writer, let alone a romance writer. All my favourite stories have a romance arc, but it was only after I started listening to audio books that I truly got addicted to romance and its guaranteed happily ever afters. I started writing about five years when a scene popped into my head and wouldn't get out. In desperation, I wrote it down and then just couldn't stop. I devoured 'how to write' books and writing podcasts while finishing my first manuscript and then joined an online critique group to learn how to actually write. The last creative writing I did was back in high school, so I literally had no idea what I was doing. After about a year and at least a dozen full rewrites I hired a professional editor to help me fine-tune my writing. A few months later I submitted 'Home' as a learning experience without ever truly believing it'd get accepted. A month or two later I got the email from Sasha Knight that changed my life overnight.

'Home' was published in 2015 under Samhain and not long after Sasha accepted my second story. Unfortunately, Samhain closed not long after, and I found myself in limbo. After way too much ice cream and way too many donuts I decided to seek an agent, and after another crazy journey somehow convinced Janna Bonikowski of The Knight Agency to take a chance on me. After a another few months of ups and downs, Tera Cuskaden of Entangled accepted what would eventually become books one and two of the Outback Hearts Series, AGAINST ALL ODDS and A CHOICE OF FATE.

I've done a lot of different things and had a number of different professions, but writing's by far the hardest thing I've attempted mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Yet the highs are like nothing I've ever experienced and make all the tears and tantrums worth it. I started writing when I was forty with zero experience and zero expectations. It hasn't been easy, and I'm only beginning to comprehend how hard the journey ahead will be, but I wouldn't swap it for anything.   

AGAINST ALL ODDS is the first book in the "Outback Hearts" series

AGAINST ALL ODDS is the first book in the "Outback Hearts" series

A CHOICE OF FATE, the second book in the "Outback Hearts" series, is available now!

A CHOICE OF FATE, the second book in the "Outback Hearts" series, is available now!

Your first book in the Outback Hearts series, AGAINST ALL ODDS, caught my attention because Smart Bitches, Trashy Books, a well-respected resource on romance books, named it one of their favorite reads of 2017 . That's a huge deal! So of course, I immediately bought it. And loved it. It's one of the most emotional, well-written, character-driven romances I've read in a long time. Tell us a little bit about what inspired this book and what it's been like seeing it in print.

I'm still happy dancing over that review, and it means even more to me because Sarah Wendell was the first person within Romancelandia I contacted to ask for advice about writing romance as a guy.

My stories always start and finish with my heroine. I wanted to give Abi her perfect happily ever after and it just so happened she needed a tough, protective, and loving Aussie hero to make her dreams come true...lucky for Ryder.

I know a story is exactly the same regardless of whether it's electronic or print, but there is something about holding an actual paper copy of your book that somehow makes it seem more real. There's nothing quite like opening up the cardboard box from Createspace and seeing your books shimmering back at you. [Createspace is] where readers can buy a 'print on demand' copy of my books. I usually buy 10 myself for my family and friends to thank them for all the support they've given me. Plus I like holding and staring at them.

 

You live outside of Melbourne, Australia in a "one wombat town" and shared on Entangled's blog a little bit about the beautiful country that provides so much inspiration for your settings. In fact, this is one of the things I loved so much about AGAINST ALL ODDS: the setting was wonderfully structured and made me feel like I was right there with Abi and the whole Harper clan! Have you visited any places that were the inspiration for Wingarra? How did you create such a lovely place for this family to live?

I was lucky to be an automotive engineer in a past life and even luckier to be test driver now which allows me to drive all over Australia and see places not many people get to see (along with giving me plenty of time to listen to audio books and podcasts). One of my favourite parts of Australia is the Outback as there's something truly magical out there that has to be felt rather than seen. When I was outlining the series, there was only one place it was going to be set, and Wingarra (Place of Magical Water) and Baroona (Place Far Away) were born.

 

One of my other favorite things about AGAINST ALL ODDS was the incredible dialogue and banter between Abi and Ryder, the heroine and hero in your novel, and Ryder's entire family. It was witty, fast-paced, and laugh-out-loud funny and lightened the tone of the book given Abi's terrible situation. How do you write such great dialogue that balances so well with such emotional material? Any tips for writers who tend to find their dialogue stilted?

Thank you so much for the wonderful compliment, but the truth is I have no idea. I try to make my stories as realistic as possible and I want readers to feel what my character's experience. Dialogue is a huge part of this. The best craft advice I can give any writer is to listen to their stories via a text to speech app., the more times the better. But I usually save listening to my story for special occasions, as by the time I've reached submission or galley proofs, I can practically recite the story from memory and can't notice what's missing. The computer-generated voice has no inflection and really highlights anything that doesn't flow or fit the story.

In regards to dialogue specifically, I avoid dialogue tags as I feel they take the reader out of the story. Instead, I use action and description to let readers know who's speaking. It's not easy, and it's hard not to have your characters nodding and sighing every page, but I believe this helps readers stay immersed in the world you've created and adds depth to the story.

 

Speaking of craft: Jezz, tell me a little bit about your writing process. What does a typical writing day (or hour) look like for you?  How do you get started, and when do you know to put down the pen or turn off the computer?  Any tips, tricks, rituals, or goals that keep you writing?

I'm very lucky that I work part time and my First Reader and I only have furry free loaders to care for. I'm a morning person so my full time writing day usually starts at 05:00. I write for about two hours and then take the dogs for a walk before writing again for another couple of hours. After lunch and taking care of any housework, I try to fit in another couple of hours in the afternoon. If I'm working, I write in the morning before work, then squeeze in time whenever and wherever I can. I write slowly (about 500 words/min), but I'm trying to finish two to three books a year. Of course all these good intentions crash and burn when edits, promo, and life interrupts.

While writing my second book I started tracking my progress in the hopes it'd help increase my word count. But I found this put even more pressure on my writing and started turning writing into work, which was the last thing I wanted. I now work as hard as I can while ensuring I'm enjoying my family, friends, and life as much as possible.

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Now let's talk about the hard stuff: rejection, "bad" writing days, disappointment. What challenges have you experienced as a writer, and what advice would you give to other aspiring authors (romance or otherwise) who are hoping to publish in this field?

Like most things writing related, I'm definitely way outside the box. I fully expected to spend years learning how to write (still learning) and have half a dozen books hiding under my desk that would never see the light of day. But the first three stories I wrote got published. My really 'bad' writing days happened later when I started overthinking everything and expecting things instead of just writing the damned story. Samhain's closure was a blow, but it was outside my control and only highlighted just how challenging and brutal this industry is. I'm still trying to condition myself to ignore the noise and just write, but it's a constant battle.

There are really no 'aspiring' writers. If you write, then you're a writer. I'm starting to realise the writers who are genuinely happy with simply writing stories THEY love are the truly successful writers. If I've learned anything on this roller coaster it's that all writers can really control are the words, and the best thing you can ever do for your career and happiness is to keep churning out better and better books that YOU love.

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And now back to the fun stuff! Tell us about your latest release(s) and what reader have to look forward to over the next year, including your next book in which Abi's sister, Olivia, gets her HEA! 

I love writing the Outback Hearts series and can't wait to give all the Harpers their very own HEA's.

AGAINST ALL ODDS

The bomb ticking inside Abigail Williams has shadowed every moment of her adult life. With the timer counting down, Abi embarks on one final adventure into the Australian outback before returning to L.A. to fight for her life.

Sergeant Ryder Harper survived over a decade in Australia’s most elite military unit. He’s ready to hang up his assault rifle and drag what’s left of his broken body back home. He dreads the long flight back to Brisbane, until he collides with the stubborn, maddening seductress sitting beside him.

Abi ignites a need deep inside Ryder, leaving him desperate for more time with this woman with mesmerizing eyes and an even more intoxicating spirit. But when Abi finally relents to Ryder’s offer to be her outback guide, she has one condition: When it’s time, he’ll have to let her go

A CHOICE OF FATE

Los Angeles based Doctor Olivia Williams has everything she’s ever dreamed of—a healthy sister, the job of a lifetime, and more freedom than she knows what to do with. And she’s kicking off her new life with a month-long adventure Down Under to celebrate her sister’s wedding and meet the in-laws. But when the groom’s brother shows up to retrieve her from her hotel, the drop-dead gorgeous lawyer is everything and nothing she expected, and she'll have to make a choice she never anticipated.

Australian Jarrah Harper has an Aston Martin parked beneath his penthouse, an overflowing little black book, and an obscenely lucrative legal practice that ensures he’ll never have to wrangle cattle or wipe sweat from his forehead ever again. But he still feels empty. When he sees his family’s home through the eyes of the entrancing Olivia, suddenly he’s rethinking everything. Including the fact that the alluring Olivia spells nothing but trouble.

Jezz de Silva at Amazon.com

 

Lastly, a fun question:  You just boarded a plane for a 14-hour flight. Where is it headed? And what person - out of everyone in the world, living or dead - would you want to sit next to for those 14 hours? 

I can't remember a time when my First Reader hasn't been by my side, so it'd have to be her, and we'd probably be heading to North America for some touring, hiking, and eating.

Jezz, thank you so much for allowing me to interview you and share your thoughts with my readers!

Website: www.jezzdesilva.com

Twitter: @jezzdesilva

Courage in Storytelling: A Look at TenX9 Lubbock

Art requires three forms of courage.

The first is the courage to create your heart’s work behind closed doors, to dream it into being, to believe in it enough to breathe it to life.

The second is the courage to share it with others, to open oneself to vulnerability, exposure, and others’ acceptance or rejection of your work.

The third is the courage to come back to your art – again and again – despite the world’s opinions of it.

This third type of courage is often the most difficult.

This past September, I had the opportunity to participate in the inaugural TenX9 Lubbock event, a night of oral storytelling in which people shared a personal, true story in front of strangers. The night’s theme was courage, and boy, did it take courage for me to not only agree to do it, but actually get up on a stage and share something personal from my life in front of a room of strangers.

TenX9 Lubbock's opening night.

TenX9 Lubbock's opening night.

I told a story about the first fiction contest I entered and how, during a panel critique of the opening chapter of a novel that is now defunct, a panel member starting laughing at my pages. I was not, sadly, writing a comedy, but I was a very new to writing genre fiction, which is a world away from what I wrote in college. The room was full of other writers, and I made some very naïve mistakes, which I paid for quite openly.

Even now, I cringe when I think of that experience. I don’t know what was going through that panel member’s mind when she behaved like that, but she inadvertently spurred me to be a better writer, learn more about the craft, and try again.

Eventually, I wrote something that was accepted, but sharing memories of that public critique with strangers for the TenX9 Lubbock event meant reliving my humiliation not once, but twice:  first, by writing it down, and second, by reading it aloud. I wasn’t sure how my story would be received, and honestly, I dreaded revealing my embarrassment to anyone.

But I am convinced that as artists who want to share our work with others we have to be brave and open to everything that can go wrong and see it all as an opportunity to learn how to be better in our work.

ART IS BORN OF HUMILIATION. - W.H. Auden

ART IS BORN OF HUMILIATION. - W.H. Auden

I didn’t die on that stage telling my story, but I did develop that third type of courage a tiny bit more. This was the unexpected magic of participating in a TenX9 storytelling event.

I encourage everyone reading this post to attend or even participate in a Tenx9 event near you. I was humbled (and, if I’m being honest, slightly terrified) to participate, but the night was full of powerful stories: some funny, some poignant.

And if you’re interested in the history and purpose of Tenx9, read on for my Q&A with one of TenX9 Lubbock’s co-founders, Jordan Kirksey, who convinced me that I needed to share my own story on courage!

 

Jordan, tell me a little bit about the history of TenX9. How did you learn about it? What made you want to bring it to Lubbock, TX?

Tenx9 (pronounced “ten by nine”) is an international storytelling event that was started in Belfast by Paul Doran and Pádraig Ó Tuama in 2011

Sarai [Brinker] learned about this event through her friend Michael McRay, who runs Tenx9 Nashville.  In May of 2015, Sarai founded the Lubbock Story Project with the event Motherhood using a similar structure to Tenx9.  In the fall of that same year, she asked me to share a story I had shared with her in a class at an event with Sound being the theme. 

At the time, I felt nervous and scared because I had no idea what I was getting myself into (similar to how our first-time storytellers feel).  Long story short, while my story was awful, I fell in love with the event.  There’s just a magical feeling you can’t describe, listening to these stories… So, hoping Sarai would say yes, I asked if I could help her with this project. 

Our intent was always to eventually make this event Tenx9, but because of the work required, I think we wanted to wait and see if these events would be successful.  Eventually we planned a trip to Nashville… and attended Tenx9 Nashville’s event themed People Move … After meeting with them and attending the event, Sarai and I knew this was something we wanted to bring it to Lubbock.

 

Oral storytelling is a powerful tool. I remember my great aunt, Marie, used to spend hours telling me stories about everyone in our family when I visited her farm as a child. She told me people's secrets, shenanigans, histories, and heartbreaks, and these are some of my best childhood memories. How has oral storytelling played a part in your life? And in your opinion, how can we build more of that oral storytelling tradition into our daily lives?

For me oral storytelling has been a way for me to connect to people. When I was in middle school and high school, I began the process of allergy shots, which meant I would constantly be pulled out of school so I could get these shots.  Since my mom loved to spoil me, we would always go to Sonic for a drink or food and would play hookie from class.  Part of that time was filled with her telling me stories, and it was a chance for me to either escape far away from my life or to help process the things going on in it.  Perhaps that’s why we keep telling stories?  Even though it seems every story sounds like another, hearing them through a different person can make you listen differently.

 

TenX9 has an interesting structure: 9 people have 10 minutes or less to tell a true story that relates to a theme. Why the 9 people? Why only 10 minutes?

I’ve asked one of the founders this question, because I wasn’t sure myself, and here’s what he gave me: 

“We chose 9 people because we thought we could do 3 sessions of 3 storytellers, thereby getting some custom to the bar/café in the in-between sessions. And 10 minutes is a good length because it’s not too short and not too long. It’s about 1400 words, and if someone can’t tell a good story in that length of time, they’re not going to be helped by it being 15 minutes, or 20 minutes! Some of our best stories have been told in under 6 minutes, so 10 minutes isn’t a target for us, it’s just a limit.

We also say that if you’re uninterested in a story, then you know that it’s only going to be ten minutes maximum, so that’s never too long to switch off until you hear a different story. But our experience is that no matter where the story comes from it’s always interesting to folks. For a public event in a bar that’s an arts night, having an evening that has a format and pace is important - people need to know when an arts night is finishing, and the format gives a clear outline and helps the pace move along.” -  Pádraig Ó Tuama

When we’re able to sit there and absorb what the speaker is saying, we’re able to live another life we’ve never lived before.
— Jordan Kirksey

I have to admit I was very uncomfortable preparing for TenX9Lubbock. It was a challenge to agree to the event, write my own story, and then get up on that stage in front of everyone and share it. But once the microphone was in my hand, everything took on a sort of magical quality. Time slowed because here were all these people listening intently to what I had to say, and suddenly, I didn't feel so alone in my experience.  What is it about telling someone else a true story that is so powerful for building a sense of community and belonging?

Well, I think it’s the power of stories.  As my old creative writing teacher told me: stories build empathy.  It goes with the old adage of putting yourself in the shoes of others, as we’re able to live this story through the speaker’s perspective.  When we’re able to sit there and absorb what the speaker is saying, we’re able to live another life we’ve never lived before.  If you put this with a large mass of people, suddenly you’re amplifying the effect.  I don’t think anyone can feel out of place in a story, because at the core we are all human beings who experience conflict.  It’s the reason I love the format of Tenx9 too, because we get such a wide range of stories even though they share a common theme.

 

How often will TenX9Lubbock events happen? And if someone wanted to participate or attend, where can they find out more?

[I]t’s safe to say that Tenx9 will happen at least once a month.  We will have an event in November, but will likely take a break in December before resuming in January.  All of our events will be at Sugar Brown’s Coffee.  Check our website for updates!

One thing that is important to note is that we have specific guidelines (found on our website), and do not function on an “open mic” basis.  Every story is approved by either Sarai or myself, and we do ask for drafts or detailed outlines from every single storyteller a few days before the event.  It’s not to only pick stories that appeal to us, but rather to make sure that these are in fact stories with a beginning, middle, and end.  After that we use these to help develop a flow with the order of the stories. 

If anyone would like to tell a story, they can find out more at www.tenx9lubbock.wordpress.com.

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TexX9Lubbock Co-founder, Jordan Kirksey

TexX9Lubbock Co-founder, Jordan Kirksey

TenX9 Lubbock Co-founder, Sarai Brinker

TenX9 Lubbock Co-founder, Sarai Brinker